“What game?” I asked.
“It’s a game where basically if you think about the game, you’ve lost the game.”
“So the game is just the thought of the game?”
“Yep,” she said.
I started thinking about how to apply this game to obsessive or unproductive thoughts. So every time I had a thought that wasn’t the thought I wanted to be thinking in that particular moment, I’d catch myself and say, “Ha!I just lost the game.”
The practice of mindfullness is about observing thought – a key practice that helps to regulate overly-emotional responses to the mundane triggers of everyday life.
(David Nichtern’s technique of “Simply see what arises in our mind as it comes up. Just notice it” is one of my favorites.)
But sometimes, mindfulness practices seem so serious and contemplative.
The cool thing about this trick is that it’s hard not to laugh when suddenly, out of the blue, you think about a game you had forgotten you were even playing. And laughter is a great way to redirect obsessive thinking into a more resourceful state of mind.
So maybe the trick is actually to say, “I won the game” every time you catch yourself interrupting your thoughts by thinking about the game.
I ran this theory by my daughter and she said, “Well, if you win the game all the time you’ll probably loose interest in playing it.”
I told her that if that happens, she’ll need to invent a new game.
“I’ll think about it,” she said.
Kids these days…