Have you ever made the conscious decision to change something about your life or health, and then said to yourself: “I’ll do that AFTER I get through this stressful time in my life.”
Only to find that stress never really passes – or if it does, you no longer feel the same urgency or commitment to make the change?
Until, as poet John Ashbery writes in the poem “Varient”
“the whole thing overflows like a silver
Wedding cake or Christmas tree, in a cascade of tears.”
Here are three good reasons to cascade the change you want to make in your life not into tears, but into a path that has already begun to form, one day at a time, starting now.
1. New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work…
…unless, of course, you have a steel resolve and the unflinching willpower to maintain your initial burst of enthusiasm. What does work is to set realistic goals and take small steps on a daily basis towards those making those goals a reality. So if you start now, by the time the new year rolls around you’ll be on the right track.
2. Laying down the seeds to get yourself started might not be as hard as you think.
For example, if weight loss is your goal, what if you made the commitment now to eat 1/2 your usual portion, savoring every bite? If you’re trying to stop smoking, how about spending this week smoking 1/3 fewer cigarettes, becoming more aware of your cravings, and drinking a glass of water each time you feel a craving coming on?
Whatever your goal may be, chunk it down to what is possible and commit to that. It will be easier to achieve.
3. Stress may stifle your desire to make changes, but procrastination buries it alive.
A new year is a reminder of how time flies – Tempus fugit. Whatever it is that you’ve been meaning to can drag your energy down, making it a lot harder to commit to larger changes. So find six hours between now and the New Year to do what you need to do to get that “to do” list in motion.
If it’s something big – like writing a dissertation or starting a new business – then separate the forest into trees, and the trees into branches. Make the job smaller, and once you’ve got it started keep taking small steps until you’re on a roll.
Happy new year – every day, starting now.
If you’d like some guidance, there are two ways that I can be of help to you.
If you’re in the New York area, join me for a Resolution Retreat Feb 3-4.
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Or, you can call me for a free, 30 minute resolution exploration phone call.
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